Yesterday, my family came to a halt. Yesterday, as time continued to tick by on the clock, marching towards the final goodbye, my family tried its best to be normal and to enjoy the moments.
Almost like a death row inmate's request for his final meal, my husband squeezed in one last trip to Cracker Barrel for breakfast. The French toast was delicious, the coffee was hot, but we couldn't escape why we were there. After breakfast, as we continued to watch the clock, Daddy had time for one last round of playtime in my 4 year old's room.
Soon enough, though, we had to drive him to his office, where he drew the weapons he would carry with him into Operation New Dawn. My daughter simply saw a magnifying glass and wanted to see things enlarged. The innocence. That innocence next to a machine of war.
But war is what the Army does. And I am proud of the job my husband does, every day, whether home or away. As much as I know, mentally, he is in the Army, it is still strange to see him holding a gun, strolling about, thinking of war.
After drawing weapons, the soldiers are no longer allowed to ride in their own cars. They cannot let the guns out of their sight, so they have to congregate and ride together on a bus to the gym where they wait for the final bus ride to the airport. We left him to ride the bus and headed over to the gym, where we sat for nearly three hours. Three hours of trying to entertain children, manage missed nap times and still be pleasant to one another. I think the Army views this as the final test for every family with a deploying soldier.
I tried to catch these final moments of Daddy loving his kids. The teenager wasn't much for hugs at this point. The 4 year old was busy making friends with other children. So the baby got lots of kisses. And Mommy got lots of pictures. He is going to miss her first step. Her first word. Her first birthday. But she will know him and he will know her. That is my job.
Then a guy on a bad microphone set up said something about 15 minutes left. 15 minutes until what? Until the soldiers form up? Until they leave? Until we can no longer touch them? A trip to the bathroom with the 4 year old. Another trip with the baby. 5 minutes left?! What? (My heart is pounding as I write this, as I relive this moment. My hands are even shaking. It hurts. It really hurts. And here are the tears.)
I avoided eye contact for fear of dissolving in front of the kids. We all avoided each others' eyes. It is a publicly private moment and it stinks. We say I love you, I'll miss you but it seems so trite. Not enough. No depth. What more can you say, though?
Last deployment (yes, this is number three for my husband), we were able to dash outside the gym while the soldiers formed up inside, then steal one final kiss and word of encouragement as they loaded onto the buses. I expected it to be the same this time. I thought we would have that final touch. It wasn't the same. There was a barricade holding me away from my soldier. My last sight of him was in the gym, eyes red, mirroring my suppressed emotion. But I know he knows everything I didn't say, couldn't say, didn't have time to say.
I pray God's safety on every soldier sleeping away from his or her family tonight. You are remembered and you are honored.